13 Reasons Why, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I don’t want to see my true self” (Part I)

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(Please read this article, From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth”— “Truth” first to understand the above conceptual map.)

Sadly, most of the people live their lives through the motion. We don’t reflect too much on how we see ourselves, and we don’t think carefully about how we see other people. We tend to focus on the tasks at hand and just try to get through the day.

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13 Reasons Why, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth”— “Truth”

I have heard so many stories about me now, but I don’t know which one is the most popular, but I do know which is the least popular: the truth.

~ Hannah Baker, EP 1.

When I started watching this drama, I didn’t know what to expect. I was like a detective trying to piece out the clue at each episode as to “what went wrong”? I wrote down different quotes from different characters to realize the entire drama can be summarized around this word: “Truth.”

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13 Reasons Why, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” To “Facing Your Truth” — Prologue

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(The picture is from Netflix website.)
To be honest, I don’t watch TV as often as I used to be.

However, when I heard many of my clients mention a TV show or a movie frequently enough at the same time, it’s my cue to do my homework, which means, “go watch it so that you know what your clients are talking about.”

In the past six months, the “homework” I have been doing is this show, “13 Reasons Why.”

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Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Cedar Cove, Couple

Family Life Cycle and Couple Relationship: What Does Cedar Cove Teach Us (Part 2)

new coupleJust a friendly reminder that you might want to read these three articles before you started reading this entry.

Family Life Cycle Theory (Reuben Hill, 1949): Stage 2: The new couple
Once the two adults enter the marital relationship, they enter the second stage of the family life cycle: the new couple. The important tasks are to form their marital system in their family of creation and to realign the relationship with their families of origin. Continue reading “Family Life Cycle and Couple Relationship: What Does Cedar Cove Teach Us (Part 2)”

Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Cedar Cove, Couple, Uncategorized, veteran

Family Life Cycle & Couple Relationship: What Does Cedar Cove Teach Us? (Part 1)

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Overview of the characters discussed in this series is briefly described here

Family Life Cycle Theory (Reuben Hill, 1949): Stage 1: Leaving home: Single young adults

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Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Cedar Cove, Couple, veteran

Cedar Cove to Couple Relationships (Prologue)

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I love to read and love to “analyze” the plots and the characters using my therapy knowledge. Because of the HIPPA privacy, I can’t talk about the “real” clients. So, why not use the fictional clients? I hope you enjoy the lives of these characters and hope my analysis will help you to understand yourself and your life a little more.

The first one I want to share with you is Cedar Cove. This series of the book caught my eye because of its TV series on the Hallmark Channel. One night, I was browsing the channels and heard “veteran’s court” that caught my attention. I started to follow up this series that led me to borrow the books.

After finishing this series of the stories about people in the Cedar Cove, I have to say, I am delighted to have read this series. It contains my passion for the veterans and the relationship issues between the couples. More surprisingly, the author depicts a lot of the issues were clinically seen. In this series of the article, I am going to let you into the secret of how I, as a couple’s therapist make a diagnosis of the couple relationship and hope you will also learn from this to help your marriage go into a positive direction, instead of falling into the traps to end up in my office.

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