Do you hear what other people are trying to tell you? Or, in the back of your head, you are trying to find words to defend yourself and waiting for the other person to finish to get your words in?
I had a very rough summer this year. This summer, two of the elders in my family passed away. I struggled to balance my life in the US while returning to Taiwan to be with my surviving family members and to say goodbye to my deceased family members. As the summer rolled out and the… Continue reading Five things to say instead of saying “Stop Crying.” : “To Be” vs. “To Do” (Part II)
As a therapist, I don’t often know the “outcome” of the clients after the termination of the therapy. I only have the information as to how the clients were doing when the session ended but how my clients afterward, I don’t often know. This past weekend, I have a privilege to spend the weekend… Continue reading Words of Wisdom from my Successful Couple: “Can Our Relationship Make it?” (III)
Show your partner that he/she is on your mind. Make sure that he/she knows when you do so.
Acceptance is not just about accepting the situation or the other person. It is also about accepting my role in the process as well as accepting my role in the process of change.
It’s another weekend retreat finished. I come home with excitement but exhaustion. It’s tiring, very tiring, to stay with a couple’s emotions consistently for the entire weekend, 16 hours. However, in the end, it’s all worth it. At the end of the weekend, I am exhausted, really exhausted. I always feel like I just helped… Continue reading A Therapist’s Confession about the Couple Retreat
Interview by the Valley Girls on 6/21/2017. I had a great time with these two girls, Lysa & Leslie, who are so down to the earth. Also, thanks to their fantastic producer, Lou, for the great questions. https://www.facebook.com/valleygirlsradio/videos/1489896164365378/