Interview by the Valley Girls on 6/21/2017. I had a great time with these two girls, Lysa & Leslie, who are so down to the earth. Also, thanks to their fantastic producer, Lou, for the great questions. https://www.facebook.com/valleygirlsradio/videos/1489896164365378/
ask yourself this: what’s your expectation about the male vs. female, or husband vs wife? I encourage you to write them down and start to evaluate how that might be consistent or inconsistent with your partner’s expectations? Furthermore, do you know your partner’s expectations?
The Gender Schema Theory proposed that there is a specific cognitive structure with attributes that we associate with male or female, such as behaviors, appearance, etc..These attributes associated with gender is also associated with our biological sex. An individual is “gendered” to his/her gender role through learning these gender-specific expectations, values, belief, and behaviors through the members of the society, such as the family, the church, the media, etc.
Remember, if a person is so strongly believe in something, there is usually a personal story, a value, a belief, or past trauma involved.
Next time, before you convicted your partner, think about this: “We are connected with LOVE.” So, as you hear yourself saying: “here we go again,” stop yourself and give your partner a benefit of the doubt. Asking your partner: “Can you tell me more about that? Explain to me where are you coming from and your rationale.” You might be surprised.
Both partners are still a couple but they now add roles as parents.
Family Life Cycle Theory (Reuben Hill, 1949): Stage 1: Leaving home: Single young adults Just as each individual goes through the developmental cycle and requires to complete developmental tasks (Erikson, 1959), each family also go through its own developmental cycle and requires to complete their tasks at each stage. The family life cycle starts… Continue reading Family Life Cycle & Couple Relationship: What Does Cedar Cove Teach Us? (Part 1)