Cedar Cove, Couple

Family Life Cycle and Couple Relationship: What Does Cedar Cove Teach Us (Part 6)

family Life Cycle
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Family Life Cycle Theory (Reuben Hill, 1949): Stage 6: Families in Later Life

The last stage is the stage when the couple moves into the “grandparent” generation and possibly requires the assistance of their children, or to assist babysitting to their grandchildren. They also adjust their roles socially and with each other as they face each other’s physical decline and the changes in their social responsibility, such as retirement from work. Continue reading “Family Life Cycle and Couple Relationship: What Does Cedar Cove Teach Us (Part 6)”

Cedar Cove, Couple, Depression/Anxiety

Family Life Cycle and Couple Relationship: What Does Cedar Cove Teach Us (Part 5)

launching children
Just a friendly reminder that you might want to read these articles before you started reading this entry.

Family Life Cycle Theory (Reuben Hill, 1949): Stage 5: Launching children and moving on

Once the first child leaves for college, the couple enters into the stage of launching the children and moving on. When the last child leaves the family, the couple enters the empty nest stage. The important tasks for the couple are to realign their relationship with the adult children as they did when they were a young adult with their parents, to “fill” space once occupied by their children, and to deal with the issues from the aging parents.

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Couple, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

New Year, New Boundary (Part 2)

boundary(Read New Year, New Boundary Part I first)
Underlying these emotions are needs that are not fulfilled. Those needs are not fulfilled because we don’t define the boundary, and we ended up building the resentment.
You don’t have to give up your virtue or your value. However, you need to gain the ability to protect your boundary. I am asking you to define your boundary so that people can respect how you want to be treated.

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Couple, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

New Year, New Boundary (Part I)

boundaryIn a few days, the “New Year Resolution” articles will be flying all over the internet.

What’s your new year resolution? More productivity? Healthier? Better financial management? Romance?

I looked back to the year of 2017 and thought about all the clients I have worked with, individuals and couples. All of these new year resolutions, relationship, money, happiness, etc., seem to be the symptoms of one crucial issue: boundary.

That is, everything that we strive to change is behaviors and the symptoms, but not the real problem. The real issue, from what I can see, is the boundary. Continue reading “New Year, New Boundary (Part I)”

Couple, Depression/Anxiety, Training Notes

Divorce, Co-Parenting, and Mental Health

divorce and mental health

I am currently at the National Council on Family Relationship 2017 conference (11/16). Today, I attended a session about changes in the family system.

The changes in the family system are either adding the members or losing the members. The focus of the session I attended was divorce. For any children who are minor, it means that you either lose a father or mother in your residence. After the divorce, if the parents are remarried, a child gains a stepparent in the family system.

There were four papers presented, discussing the factors influencing co-parenting decisions, the impact on the children’s development, and the mental health issues due to the divorce.

The ideas of “gatekeeping,” “gender role,” “divorce” and “mental health” comes to my mind. Here are some takeaway points. For your information, you might want to read the entry about “Divorce & Co-Parenting” before continue to read this entry,

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Couple, Training Notes

Divorce & Co-Parenting

divorce and coparentingI am currently at the National Council on Family Relationship 2017 conference (11/16). Today, I attended a session about changes in the family system.

The changes in the family system are either adding the members or losing the members. The focus of the session I attended was divorce. For any children who are minor, it means that you either lose a father or mother in your residence. After the divorce, if the parents are remarried, a child gains a stepparent in the family system.

There were four papers presented, discussing the factors influencing co-parenting decisions, the impact on the children’s development, and the mental health issues due to the divorce.

Continue reading “Divorce & Co-Parenting”