“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun, like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” ~~~ Fred Rogers
Approaches to Therapy
Communication and conflict resolution are the most common issues brought the couples into therapy. I often share with the couples that, I am not on either one of your sides but on your RELATIONSHIP’s side. I strive to engage with both partners but more importantly, to help both partners to work together for the utmost benefit of their relationship.
Because of my extensive experiences working with adult survivors of childhood family trauma as well as combat veterans with combat trauma, I am specialized in working with couples when one or both partners experiencing mental illness, such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
I am also experienced in working with couples working through the transitions of their family life cycle, e.g., pre-marital counseling, bringing the first child home, co-parenting issues as biological parents or stepparents, and empty nester.
As a bi-lingual therapist (English and Mandarin Chinese), I am also experienced in working with couples when both partners are from different cultural background to assist them to create the shared meanings of their relationship.
Ideally, I would like to work with the individuals in the couple’s context. Let’s face it, at the end of the day, a therapist only sees the client for an hour a week, but your partner is with you majority of the time throughout the week. It is important for the partners to understand each other’s trigger, moods, and communication style to become the healing agent for each other.
Couple Therapy Session
The standard 50 minutes per session is for the individual therapy. However, in the couple’s therapy situation, we have 3 people, you, your partner, and your relationship, in the room. The standard 50 minutes per session often is not enough. It takes a while for the couple and the therapist to get to know each other and the individual and relationship history. As a result, the standard 50 minutes/session often results in frustration as the couples come to therapy without having enough time to resolve their issues.
You can choose to have the standard 50 min/session with your insurance coverage. Or, you can choose to extend your session to 80-90 min/session with a discount fee. Please inquire about this discount fee if you wish to have the extended session.