Everyone, including myself, spends a lot of time worrying, planning, and thinking about the future from our experiences in the past. When it comes to the interaction with the human beings, it is all about now.
Who is the actual troublemaker? It is the perpetrator who is the troublemaker but why are we telling the victims that they bring the trouble to everyone if they make the report?
1. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you are weak. It says you are strong enough to show your true self.
2. Being vulnerable allow you to transform your shame and helplessness into compassion and action.
“I have heard so many stories about me now, but I don’t know which one is the most popular, but I do know which is the least popular: the truth.”
~ Hannah Baker, EP 1.
The main point I want to make is this: There are many victims out there, including the friends or family sitting next to you right now, and you don’t know about their stories because they never said anything about it.
If there are so many victims out there, how many perpetrators do you think are out there? The answer is probably the same: the perpetrators look like just a regular and nice guy sitting next to you, and they will never tell you: “I am a perpetrator.”
I am Dr. Grace Chen, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
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