Multiple Truth (Part II)
(Multiple Truth Part I) Gottman couple’s therapy always starts with the couple’s history intake and then offering my take after the assessment. On the way home, I thought about my opening line if I had both of them sitting in front of me. Here it goes…. To Carl and Lynette, I hope you know your […]
Mutiple Truth (Part I)
Multiple Truth~ ~~ Post-show Reflection from a Couple Therapist’s Viewpoints ~~~ (Part I) I went to watch “Becoming a Man” at the American Reparatory Theater (Cambridge, MA) two weeks ago. This was a story about a transperson’s transition story. I truly enjoyed the play as it depicted the real struggles of the main character, Carl’s struggle, […]
Goodbye 2020. Hello 2021~ Word of the Year
How do I use the word of the year in that particular year? It is quite simple. Whenever I found myself unable to decide about certain things in my life, I ask myself: “is doing xxxxx going to make me feel XXXX (word of the year)?”
COVID- 19 Week 10 (5/18 to 5/22) Journal
“Maybe there is no solution. Maybe there is no compromise on how to proceed. However, there is certainly an extensive understanding and compassion to where the other parties are coming from.”
COVID- 19 Week 8 (5/4 to 5/8) Journal
Week 8, (5/4 to 5/8), is it week 8 into the COVID-19 State of the Emergency in the State of Massachusetts?
[Relationship] Expectations & Fairness
Do I communicate my “expectation” of what’s fair clearly? How do I know my expectation/standard of fairness is the same as my partner or anyone else’s standard?
New Year Resolution 2019: Take Charge of the Change
Change is scary, but it helps to take charge instead of being pushed to change.
Surviving Holiday Stress with In-Laws (II)
By understanding and accepting your partner’s feelings and perspectives, you offer your acceptance. More importantly, by following your partner’s different experiences from his/her family of origin, you and your partner can lead into the discussion to build a new tradition and give a new meaning of the holiday tradition in your family of creation.
Surviving Holiday Stress with In-Laws (I)
No matter it’s Chinese, American, or Hispanics, etc.. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard the partner by marriage saying: “You made me feel like an outsider;” while the partner who is biologically related to the extended family saying: “I am stuck in the middle between my spouse/partner and my parents.”
[Couple Relationship] How much do I give to my relationship?
Equal partnership is vital for a healthy relationship. However, what does equal mean to you when it comes to the relationship? Do you have to divide every responsibility to 50%? Alternatively, do you see the equality as an overall assessment of your “give and take” balance?