[Working with Immigrants] Working with Hispanic Adult Children with Immigrant Parents (Part 3)

Working with Hispanic Adult Children with Immigrant Parents

When I planned to write this series of articles, I didn’t plan to make it so complicated and so long! This section has always been my plan. I want to share with you about my experiences to take these adult children’s narrative into individual and couple therapy.

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[Working with Immigrants] Working with Hispanic Adult Children with Immigrant Parents (Part I)

Working with Hispanic Adult Children with Immigrant Parents

Immigrants tend to move to the places where they have their relatives or families. For example, the city of Lowell has a huge Vietnamese, Cambodian, and Laos population. The city of Lawrence also is central of the Hispanic population. My office located next to Lawrence and 10 miles from the city of Lowell. Being an Asian immigrant myself, I found myself getting clients from these two population quite often. However, because I don’t speak Vietnamese, Khmer, and Spanish, most of the clients from these countries are the first generation of the immigrant family who either immigrated here very young or was born here.

Therefore, my disclaimer here is that my working experiences with the Hispanic population are primary the adult children with immigrant parents. Let’s start with the Hispanic population.

The assessment questions were developed in the process of working with these children who speak both perfect English and native language. Other than discussing with my clients about these questions, I also research the history of the country of origin as part of my homework after the first intake session.

Let me start with the Hispanic population. Continue reading “[Working with Immigrants] Working with Hispanic Adult Children with Immigrant Parents (Part I)”


[Working with Immigrants] Self-Assessment as a Provider

icon-3-color-02I struggled to continue writing this series of article for a few weeks. My original writing plan is to share my experiences working with various immigrant populations. I have started to work on the Hispanic population, but I got stuck. After going back and forth and reading through the literature reviews, I realized two reasons. The first one is the provider’s assumptions about the immigrants. Let’s start with these two cases first.

Story 1:
Female, age between 25-35, presenting issues: interpersonal relationship, and mainly, intimate relationship issues.

“My husband/boyfriend thinks that I am too controlling. Is it wrong that I want to know when he comes home and where he goes? He also thinks that I am nitpicking him about little things. I just need him to pick up after himself and to help out cleaning the place. I can’t do everything by myself, right? Why can’t he give me a hand and think I am nagging him? I want him to get a better education and better job so that we can have a better future. However, he thinks that I am criticizing him. I can’t understand him. Doesn’t he want to have a better future with me?”

Story 2:
Male, age between 35-45, presenting issues: communication in the intimate relationships

“I don’t know how to communicate with my wife/girlfriend. Our values are so different in many ways. She said that I don’t talk to her and I have a temper. I don’t know if I have a temper. She thinks that I am too strict with children. Is it wrong to expect the children to behave certain ways?”

Before I dive into the details of using the proposed assessment model as described previously to work with these two clients, I invite you to have some free association here.

What are the hypotheses do you have with these two clients?

Please write them down first.

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[Working With Immigrants] Assessment (Part 2)

immigration 3I hope you enjoyed this series so far. I am enjoying writing it and sharing my experiences. I would love to hear from you.
Just to refresh your memories, here are the questions I routinely ask my clients who are immigrants or the first generations of the immigrants.

Individual factor:
Where are you originally from?
When did you come here?
How old were you when you first got here?
What’s your birth order in the family?
How old are you and what are the issues you are facing right now?

Family factors:
How did you/your family come to the US?
Do you have family members around here? If not, where are your family of origin now and how did you end up at where you are now?
How often do you have the communication/interaction with your family of origin?
If married, how did you meet your partner? Are you the same cultural background or different?

Community factors:
How often do you have the interaction with people from your culture, talking in your native language, and participating activities that are often done in your culture of origin?

I have shared my thoughts about the individual factors, here are the reasons to ask these questions for the family and community factors.

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[Working with Immigrants]Assessment (Part I)

immigration 1Thank you for interested in this series. If you want to know why I am interested in sharing my thoughts about working with immigrants, please check the introduction section.

Dr. Glick reviewed the research done between 200-2010 and found that an individual’s decision to immigrate and the chances to be successful in the immigration country was not an individual but a family decision (Galick, 2010). This confirmed to my personal experiences when I worked with either individual or couples when one or both partners were the immigrant generations or the first generation of the immigrant families. I will start by discussing my personal evaluation process and go on to the details of each cultural minority.

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[Going Home 2017] Epilogue

Apparently, I really have a lot to say in my brain. I had thought about finishing this series with this story but uncertain whether it is too personal to share it or not. One day, I was talking to a friend who gave me a compliment about my work. She said: “you must feel good that your work is to help people.” I said to her: “no, not really, I mean, I am very privilege to be part of my clients’ transformation process. They invited me to go into their lives and to see their transformation. It’s a sacred process and I am honored to be part of that process. It’s quite a privilege.”

So, this is the final piece to conclude this series.

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[Going Home 2017]Cultural Expectation

IMG_3283.JPGI grew up in a very traditional family. My dad was the fourth child of the five brothers. My grandfather passed away when my father was about 4 years old. Life was not easy for my dad who grew up in World War II without a father. In a way, his oldest brother who was 13 years senior of my dad was like a father to my dad. My mother is the oldest of the 6 children. My youngest aunt is 13 years younger than my mom and my mother took on the responsibility of helping my grandparents with all the younger siblings as early as the first grade.

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