13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — Epilogue

13reasonswhyepilogueEpilogue —— Death and Its Lesson

Well, that’s it, I finished my writing with this series, “13 Reasons Why”. This entry will be the last article about this drama series. I hope you enjoyed reading it and I am looking forward to your feedback.

Before I closed my writing on this series for good (unless there is something good to follow up in season 2), I want to talk about the issue of “death.”

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13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I can face my pain now.” (Part II)

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(Please read “I can face my pain now” (Part I) first)

Facing Your Vulnerability
Takeaway Points:
1. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you are weak. It says you are strong enough to show your true self.
2. Being vulnerable allow you to transform your shame and helplessness into compassion and action.
3. For more information about the vulnerability, please read Brene Brown’s work. This Ted Talk Video in 2010  is a good start. I found it very useful to myself in my journey to become who I am today. Continue reading “From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I can face my pain now.” (Part II)”

13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I can face my pain now.” (Part I)

13reasonswhyvulnerability

Sometimes things just happened to you. It just happened. You can’t help it. But it’s what you do next counts, not what happened but what you decided to do about it.
~ Hannah Baker, EP 10

Yes, we can’t control things that happened to us. If I had learned something from being a therapist, that is: “bad things happened to good people and we, as human beings, are very powerless in control the “outcome” of our efforts.” Many people, including myself, have a difficult time to accept the outcome that is not what we desired. Or, we have a difficult time to allow things that are out of our control. Continue reading “From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I can face my pain now.” (Part I)”

13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” – “It’s painful to see it.” (Part II)

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(Please read “It’s painful to see it” (Part 1) First. )

Face Your Imperfect Self
Take Away Points:
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13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” – “It’s painful to see it.” (Part I)

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And, yeah, I’m a fucking weak, pathetic loser who ruined the one good thing that I ever had because I wanted a rapist to think I was just like him.
~ Alex Standall, EP12

Some people have a difficult time to face him/herself, but they are courageous enough to face their true self. To face one’s true feelings, real thoughts, true behaviors, and real reactions from other people are not easy. It brings you extremely painful reactions such as shame, guilt, disappointment, hopeless, etc., and possibly rejection to oneself. Continue reading “From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” – “It’s painful to see it.” (Part I)”

13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I refuse to see it” (Part 2)

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(Please read Facing Your Hurt and Anger Part 1 first.)

Facing Your Hurt and Anger
Takeaway Points:
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13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I refuse to see it” (Part 1)

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Justin: Jess, please, I was trying to protect you.
Jessica: Protect me? Seriously?
Justin: I thought if you didn’t know, if no one found out…
Jessica: What? I’d be fine? I’d go about my life? You and I would get married and live happily ever after?
Justin: That’s what I wanted, was for us to to be together. Forever.
Jessica: You let him.
Justin: No, I was drunk. And I was scared.
Jessica: So was I.
Justin: Bryce was at the…..
Jessica: Don’t say that name!
Justin: I’m sorry, it’s just that, every time I was thrown out, when my mom was fucked up, one of her boyfriends was fucking with me he was there for me. When I had no money, when I was starving, his folks bought my shit for school. Okay, when my mom was busted for possession, he got his dad to bail her out.
Jessica: They do that shit so they can own you.
Justin: No. Okay? Last year, I couldn’t afford new shoes for basketball. I went through four pairs that season. When we got to playoffs, they just had, like, holes. Bryce didn’t offer to buy me new shoes. He pretended he had an extra pair.
Jessica: Justin. Are you seriously trying to make excuses for what you did?
Justin: No. I just want you to understand.
Jessica: And I want you to understand what it’s like to be raped. But I truly hope you never will.

~ Justin & Jessica, EP 12

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