Tag: Anxiety

Change is Hard (Part III)–How Do We Change it?

If you didn’t have an adult to provide the boundary of safety to allow you to experience change as a child, find a friend or a therapist to be that adult figure for you. You do not need to do it alone. Let your therapist or your friend help you figure out the boundary between safety and danger. Let this person help you to balance the feeling of anxiety and excitement for change. Let this person accompany you to experience those unfamiliar feelings or unknown territories.

May 23, 2018

Change is Hard (Part II) — Why?

Reason # 1: The old pattern used to be a survival strategy or to serve some purpose.
Reason # 2: Change is too scary and unknown.

May 16, 2018

Change is Hard (Part I)— Is it possible?

We all know that personality is generally pretty stable even though the recent studies have shown that personality does change over time for the better (but a slow and gradual process). One of the main reasons the personality change happens when a person chooses to do so to live a meaningful and successful life. So, if no choice is made and no action is taken, a person’s personality can stay the same or change slow and gradually throughout the years.

So, the bottom line is: if you want the change, you are the one who has to make up your mind and to take action.

May 9, 2018

Change your thoughts doesn’t necessarily lead to change your feelings.

““In any situation, planned or unexpected, we all have the desired outcome. In spite of doing the best we could and chose the best option at the time, the actual result may not the desired outcome we would like it to be. When the real outcome and the desired outcome were different, the difference between them already caused a sense of loss. We can try to reason with ourselves why the decision we made or the choice we pick was the best one. It didn’t change the loss between the desired outcome and the actual outcome.”

April 11, 2018

From “13 Reasons Why” To “Facing Your Truth” — Prologue

By evaluating the plots and the characters in the show, I hope to provide different methods to help all of us to turn to a different direction instead of suicide. I also hope to use this show to clarify the myths about sexual assaults.

January 13, 2018

Divorce, Co-Parenting, and Mental Health

It is essential to know the symptoms of depression and/or anxiety. When your experiences/emotions go beyond your can manage, seek help. Your feelings might be situational due to divorce. However, if you don’t take action to take care of your mental health, it might turn into chronic issues that will, in turn, cause your personal and your children’s wellbeing.

November 18, 2017

Depression and Marital Satisfaction

You cannot take it too personally. You have to take it personal enough to care. However, you can’t take it too personally that all you do is to react to your spouse with emotional retaliation.

November 15, 2017

‘Love Yourself”: “I am exhausted!”

“So, how long is this (therapy) going to take?” I am often asked by the clients with the above question. Some of the clients who

October 13, 2017

Five Steps to Take Instead of Saying “Stop Feeling This Way”: “To Do” vs “To Be” (Part I)

I had a very rough summer this year. This summer, two of the elders in my family passed away. I struggled to balance my life

September 29, 2017

[Anxiety] Everything Works out in the End

If my brain is like a car, the thought would be the gas and the meditation would be the break. Every single minute, my brain keeps pumping the gas with processing all the thoughts. After a while, my brain is like a car on the freeway racing like 500miles/hour.

July 18, 2017

Change is Hard (Part III)–How Do We Change it?

Change is Hard (Part II) — Why?

Change is Hard (Part I)— Is it possible?

Change your thoughts doesn’t necessarily lead to change your feelings.

From “13 Reasons Why” To “Facing Your Truth” — Prologue

Divorce, Co-Parenting, and Mental Health

Depression and Marital Satisfaction

‘Love Yourself”: “I am exhausted!”

Five Steps to Take Instead of Saying “Stop Feeling This Way”: “To Do” vs “To Be” (Part I)

[Anxiety] Everything Works out in the End

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