Words of Wisdom from my Successful Couple: “Can Our Relationship Make it?” (III)



As a therapist, I don’t often know the “outcome” of the clients after the termination of the therapy. I only have the information as to how the clients were doing when the session ended but how my clients afterward, I don’t often know.

This past weekend, I have a privilege to spend the weekend with a couple whom I worked with a few years ago. This meeting was the third time we spent the weekend together. It was such a humbling experience to me that I have to write this down to share with you. I see this as my “lesson learned from my successful couple.” Click to read this Journey # 1 and Journey # 2.

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A Therapist’s Confession about the Couple Retreat


It’s another weekend retreat finished. I come home with excitement but exhaustion. It’s tiring, very tiring, to stay with a couple’s emotions consistently for the entire weekend, 16 hours. However, in the end, it’s all worth it.

At the end of the weekend, I am exhausted, really exhausted. I always feel like I just helped the couple gave birth to the new relationship after two days and 4 hours in labor. We were all exhausted but joyful to see the new possibility for this relationship.

To the couple that just finished the retreat with me, from the bottom of my heart, I want to say this to you: Congratulations for getting through this hard labor and I am looking forward to hearing your life with this new relationship you just give birth in our follow-up session.

For the couples that just check out this place, I have a confession to make, and I want to share with you the secret of the weekend retreat.

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