Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

Change is Hard (Part II) — Why?

Change # 2Is change possible?

As a therapist, I have to believe that people can change. Otherwise, what’s the point of psychotherapy if a person will feel miserable for the rest of his/her life because of his/her personality? Also, what can “I,” as a therapist, do, to facilitate the change? Or, in another word, based on the research result, how can I assist a person’s motivation to change?

It got me to think about the question: why don’t we take action to make changes even when we stuck in the miserable place? Continue reading “Change is Hard (Part II) — Why?”

13 Reasons Why, Book Club: Fiction to Reality, Depression/Anxiety, Trauma

From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — Epilogue

13reasonswhyepilogueEpilogue —— Death and Its Lesson

Well, that’s it, I finished my writing with this series, “13 Reasons Why”. This entry will be the last article about this drama series. I hope you enjoyed reading it and I am looking forward to your feedback.

Before I closed my writing on this series for good (unless there is something good to follow up in season 2), I want to talk about the issue of “death.”

Continue reading “From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — Epilogue”

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From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” – “Facing the truth about rape” (Part II)

13reasonswhyrape(Please Read “Facing the Truth about Rape Part I” first.)

Reaction 2: “If it truly happened, why didn’t she do something to stop it?”
You might say I should have done more. At that moment I was already dead.
~ Hannah Baker, Ep 12

Hannah said this after Bryce raped her. Her reaction was typical victim’s reaction: frozen. She also was frozen when she witnessed Bryce raped Jessica. So, before we question the victims “not doing more,” the reality is they can’t because their mind and body are in a status of shock and frozen to do more.

More so, we know that many victims lost their lives because of fighting against the perpetrators. At that moment, it’s either fight and possibly lose your life or let the perpetrator hurt you. So, are we blaming the victims who fought to survive for not fighting the rape? Continue reading “From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” – “Facing the truth about rape” (Part II)”

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From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” – “Facing the truth about rape”(Part I)

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Wanna know what’s worse than being a rapist? Hiding behind one. Fucking justifying a fucking rapist, that’s worse.You want to get the story straight? We all know the story. Everything Hannah said on the tapes is true.
~Alex, EP12

I think it’s about time we stop think about what Hannah wants but what she needs and Jessica, and every girl who “practically beg Bryce to fuck her”.”
~ Clay Jensen, EP 13.

Years of working with survivors of childhood sexual abuse have taught me this: there are two sources of wounds contributing to the trauma: the sexual abuse itself and the responses from the people close to the survivors. When I was working on my doctoral dissertation, I went back and forth reading the literature debating which one caused the trauma or PTSD. There is no conclusion, and the only conclusion is both of them contributed to the trauma and post-trauma experiences. Continue reading “From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” – “Facing the truth about rape”(Part I)”

Trauma

“Who Caused the Trouble?” — Myth about Sexual Abuse (II)

CBS News Video

https://www.cbsnews.com/videos/usa-gymnastics-board-members-resign-amid-abuse-scandal/

Gymnast Larissa Boyce said she was 16 in 1997 when she complained to MSU coach Kathie Klages that she suspected Nassar was abusing her.
“Kathie came back in the room with just me at this point, and said, ‘Well, I can file something, but there’s going to be very serious consequences for both you and Dr. Nassar,” she said. “And I said, ‘Well, I don’t want to get anybody in trouble.’ I just felt humiliated. I felt silenced. I felt embarrassed.”
~ CBS News, 1/28/2018 Continue reading ““Who Caused the Trouble?” — Myth about Sexual Abuse (II)”

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From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I can face my pain now.” (Part II)

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(Please read “I can face my pain now” (Part I) first)

Facing Your Vulnerability
Takeaway Points:
1. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you are weak. It says you are strong enough to show your true self.
2. Being vulnerable allow you to transform your shame and helplessness into compassion and action.
3. For more information about the vulnerability, please read Brene Brown’s work. This Ted Talk Video in 2010  is a good start. I found it very useful to myself in my journey to become who I am today. Continue reading “From “13 Reasons Why” to “Facing Your Truth” — “I can face my pain now.” (Part II)”