Words of Wisdom from my Successful Couple: “Can Our Relationship Make it?” (III)
As a therapist, I don’t often know the “outcome” of the clients after the termination of the therapy. I only have the information as
September 22, 2017
As a therapist, I don’t often know the “outcome” of the clients after the termination of the therapy. I only have the information as
Show your partner that he/she is on your mind. Make sure that he/she knows when you do so.
Acceptance is not just about accepting the situation or the other person. It is also about accepting my role in the process as well as accepting my role in the process of change.
It’s another weekend retreat finished. I come home with excitement but exhaustion. It’s tiring, very tiring, to stay with a couple’s emotions consistently for the
Interview by the Valley Girls on 6/21/2017. I had a great time with these two girls, Lysa & Leslie, who are so down to the
ask yourself this: what’s your expectation about the male vs. female, or husband vs wife? I encourage you to write them down and start to evaluate how that might be consistent or inconsistent with your partner’s expectations? Furthermore, do you know your partner’s expectations?
The Gender Schema Theory proposed that there is a specific cognitive structure with attributes that we associate with male or female, such as behaviors, appearance, etc..These attributes associated with gender is also associated with our biological sex. An individual is “gendered” to his/her gender role through learning these gender-specific expectations, values, belief, and behaviors through the members of the society, such as the family, the church, the media, etc.
Remember, if a person is so strongly believe in something, there is usually a personal story, a value, a belief, or past trauma involved.
Next time, before you convicted your partner, think about this: “We are connected with LOVE.” So, as you hear yourself saying: “here we go again,” stop yourself and give your partner a benefit of the doubt. Asking your partner: “Can you tell me more about that? Explain to me where are you coming from and your rationale.” You might be surprised.
Family Therapist. Dr. Minuchin reminded the therapists and the couples to watch out the boundary between the coupling unit and the parent unit. Both partners are still a couple, but they now add roles as parents. In the clinical settings, I have seen a lot of couples have the following difficulties:
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